Comments on Stepfamily Sanctuary: Stepmom Bill of Rights

Also...this was written in the first page of Barba...

2012-02-11T03:06:17.652-05:00

Also...this was written in the first page of Barbara Mullen Keenans book: When you marry a man with children, 1992. I assumed she wrote this from her research...but I am not sure.

Love the list!!!! I guess its a starting point and...

2012-02-11T02:57:32.315-05:00

Love the list!!!! I guess its a starting point and if one wants to "give up" any of their rights...that is their choice. I assume that choice will be individual to each circumstance. Its like our bill of rights...#2 the right to bare arms...just because we have the right, we don't all choose to own a gun.

What an amazing list! I have asked for every singl...

2011-08-18T00:38:28.255-04:00

What an amazing list! I have asked for every single thing and still have none of them. It makes my life as a step parent impossible. There is no respect in my home or relationships. It a very sad and lonely world.

Hi there, I found your blog via Google while searc...

2011-08-04T23:24:29.330-04:00

Hi there, I found your blog via Google while searching for a related topic, your site came up, it looks good.

Thanks for an idea, you sparked at thought from a ...

2011-05-03T15:36:58.087-04:00

Thanks for an idea, you sparked at thought from a angle I hadn’t given thoguht to yet. Now lets see if I can do something with it.

I don't like the list. It seems like she'...

2010-10-07T19:34:41.112-04:00

I don't like the list. It seems like she's a drill sargeant. Our blended family is much more like they are my own when they are here. No body has to consult with me to whether or not they can come over at an unexpected time. I would love to have them ALL the time. They will never be in my way.

Anonymous: I would like to say I agree with you t...

2009-03-20T07:34:00.000-04:00

Anonymous: I would like to say I agree with you totally on #5 and in many cases, I'd have to say I agree (as long as the biological parent in the home is taking on the responsibility or stepparent if they agree to) except when a stepchild is violent towards siblings. My stepson had several years where he hurt his younger siblings to make his momma happy. He was angry, violent, and unpredictable. I was hiding the knives before his visits and sleeping with one eye open pretty much (with a baby monitor in the bedrooms too). When his doctor warned me he might hurt me (or our newborn baby) or she was afraid of sexual abuse, I had to put my foot down about his visits for awhile with his doctor and his therapist backing me up. Keeping all the kids safe was a priority; it couldn't be all about my stepson (like his mother has made his entire childhood spoiling the kid). My husband didn't stop his "visitation", he took my stepson out for the day closer to his mother's home, didn't bring him to ours for overnights for awhile.

My kids' rights were severely threatened during that time so I also agree with your last sentence. They had a right to a safe, healthy home.

I agree with all of these, but do have a hard time...

2009-03-19T19:13:00.000-04:00

I agree with all of these, but do have a hard time with number 5. While I do believe I should have a say about what happens while my SC are in my home, I do not believe I can ever say they cannot live here, or cannot visit at any time for as long as they/their father want. That said, I would like to see 'Stepkids Bill of Rights.' It sometimes seems like MY kids have no rights in their own home, whenever the stepkids visit.