Text for Hubby to Come to Hotel Room to Visit Kids (ex would be there). Weird.

My husband just told me he got a text from his daughter last night, telling him they were at a hotel room (about 113 miles from where we live), where they are staying because they're going to an amusement park today and would HE like to come visit them that night (last night)?  Late at night?  It sounded like the invitation was made just to him.

Ummm...huh?  A text at night, for HIM to drive more than two hours with no notice and come to a hotel room, with the ex and the kids...a little weird.  Hubby thought it was more than a little strange. 

What I find even stranger is that they are THIS close to our home and didn't make arrangements to come this weekend after their amusement park fun today (they're heading back to their state tomorrow).  Oh wait, there's another teen club my stepdaughter would rather go to tomorrow night.  That's right.  I forgot.  Priorities.  They can squeeze dad in at 11:00 at night in a hotel room, with their mom.  Yeah, that's happening. 

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Child of Faerie, Child of Earth by Jane Yolen and Jane Dyer

I just finished reading Child of Faerie, Child of Earth to my five-year-old daughter and this book was a keeper!  It's a book about a human girl and a faerie boy meeting.  Sweet, good illustrations.  Definitely a book to keep on a bookshelf.

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Ex's and Facebook

As I was going thru my mother-in-law's facebook seeing how much of OUR family information was on there for the ex to see, now that the MIL has friended the ex, I realized that as long as the in-laws have access to things like photos, videos, etc. on my facebook page, I may have very little (no) control over what they "share" of mine onto their facebook page for their friend list's viewing.

If I have a video on my facebook that is set as "friends only" and somebody on my friend list "shares" it on their facebook, does it show up for everybody on their facebook page or only their friends who are also my friends?  I think it does because if I remember correctly, a friend of mine did that so her mom could see a video I'd taken (her mom wasn't on my friend list).

They've put my family videos onto their own personal facebook pages (different from being tagged).  I don't want my family videos out there for the ex's viewing "pleasure".

I've figured out that there is anger but more than that, there is hurt if the tears I want to cry are any indication.  They KNOW how things have been with the ex for 14+ years.  They KNOW their son's feelings about the ex.  If they want to friend the ex on facebook, that's their decision but they've shared our personal family videos and photos on their facebook page.  They should know that we would never, ever share those with the ex.  I think they should remove our own personal videos they've shared.  I took them.  They aren't theirs to share with the ex.

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In-Laws Friend the Ex

Well, there goes putting updates about our family on my mother-in-law's facebook like I usually do about her grandkids.  Hmmm...wondering about tagging pictures too now.  She and my sister-in-law recently friended the ex on Facebook. 

Oh no, just realized that on some photo albums and videos, I have the privacy settings as "friends of friends".  I am going to have to go change those now to just friends.  Otherwise, the ex has access to them now on my facebook.  Nice.

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First Day of School Tears

Our four kids started school today (my stepkids don't start until after Labor Day).  I got my oldest three off just fine and then waited for 9:00 a.m. to come around to take my youngest to her first day of kindergarten for her first day with parents (for the first 1-1/2 hours). 

Leaving her there at 10:30 was HARD!  I didn't cry.  I held it back and headed towards the parent meeting afterward with the principal and PTO.  On the way into the meeting, there was a PTO mom handing out kleenex to crying parents.  Oh geez!  That almost had me crying.  When I am trying NOT to cry, I don't want it to be the topic because then I WILL cry.  Made it through that meeting and went out to the car.

Holding back tears again for the drive home and immediately started picking up the house, etc. to keep my mind off of the fact that my baby is now in school full-time and won't be my baby anymore.  She'll turn into one of "THEM" (a KID who won't want to cuddle as much, spend time with mom as much, etc.). 

So far, I've not cried and now would be a good time to since I am by myself but I think I've choked them so far back, they aren't going to come.  Maybe when I have to put her on the bus for the first time to send her off for the day I will.

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